I need help, I am 50 and my son is 20?

the problem is he dosen't want to work or can hold a job, he is sleeping the most of the time and I don't see any motivation to do something good for himself, even to have a nice relationship with some girls. My husband don't say anything but my reaccion everyday is very agresive to my son, of course he is not paying anything at home and we really need money to committe all the responsabilities. He's not helping in any chore and he is using my demand to say if I still pushing him, never will give me money until I keep quite like I supposed to be very happy, he's not doing his laundry or do dishes or other stuff, just consuming and spend time in the computer. if there a hope?, everyday I demand to him to find other place to live if he not give me money to support all his expenses at home. I told him I will be collect his SS if I can probe his way of living. Our live is so sad.